Feeling guilty about moving abroad?
Getting rid of guilt after moving abroad is important for your mental and emotional well-being. Guilt can make you feel unhappy, stressed, and regretful, and it can prevent you from enjoying your new life and opportunities. You might feel a sense of false responsibility for other peoples happiness.
You are not being selfish by pursuing your dreams and goals.
Moving abroad is a brave and adventurous decision that can enrich your life and broaden your horizons. You are not abandoning or betraying your loved ones by choosing a different path. You are following your own happiness and fulfillment, which is something everyone deserves. You are responsible only for your own happiness. That being said, burning bridges behind you will not bring you happiness, but neither will people pleasing or giving up on your dreams because others want you to.
You are not alone in feeling guilty.
Many expats experience guilt after moving abroad, especially when they miss important events or milestones in their home country. Guilt is a natural and common emotion that shows you care about your friends and family. However, it is not healthy or helpful to dwell on it or let it consume you. Find your emotions behind the guilt and regret.
Are you sad for missing a wedding? Are you missing your loved ones? Do you feel jealousy or resentment towards them for continuing their lives without you?
All these emotions are completely normal and they don’t mean you have “failed” somehow in your decision. It just means you have people so dear to you that you miss being with them. Sit with your emotions, examine them and accept them.
”I feel sad because I missed my nephews birthday party . I love him and my other family members and I miss the feeling of togetherness when we meet.” You will turn the gnawing sense of guilt into loving kindness towards yourself. Pick up the phone and call them or establish connection some other way.
You can still maintain a strong connection with your loved ones.
Moving abroad does not mean cutting off ties with your home country. Thanks to modern technology, you can stay in touch with your friends and family through phone calls, video chats, social media, and emails. You can also visit them regularly or invite them to visit you. You can share your experiences, support each other, and celebrate together.
You can find a new community and support network in your new country.
Moving abroad can be lonely and challenging at times, but it can also be an opportunity to meet new people and make new friends. You can join expat groups, clubs, classes, or volunteer activities that match your interests and hobbies. You can also learn about the local culture, language, and customs. You can find a sense of belonging and comfort in your new environment.
You can grow as a person and learn from your problems.
Moving abroad can expose you to different perspectives, challenges, and opportunities that can help you develop new skills, knowledge, and confidence. You can face your problems with courage and resilience, instead of running away from them or feeling guilty about them. You can overcome your fears and insecurities, and discover new aspects of yourself.
