Trade you FOMO to JOMO

Fear of missing out (FOMO) is a common and normal feeling that many people experience when they move abroad especially with the holiday season coming up. It is the feeling or perception that others are having more fun, living better lives, or experiencing better things than you are. It can cause emotional and physical distress, such as sadness, anxiety, irritability, headaches, insomnia, and loss of appetite. 

However, FOMO does not have to ruin your experience of living in a different place. There are some effective strategies that can help you cope with FOMO and enjoy your new environment. 

Here are some tips on how to deal with FOMO after moving abroad

Remember that it’s all relative. 

You chose to move away and your friends at home probably have FOMO too. They may envy your adventurous lifestyle, your exposure to new cultures, and your opportunities for growth and learning. Don't compare your regular life to the highlights of others' lives. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of your own situation and appreciate what you have. 

Know your FOMO triggers 

Identify what situations or platforms make you feel more FOMO and try to avoid or limit them. For example, if social media makes you feel worse, take a break from it or have a digital “detox.” If certain events or holidays make you feel more homesick, plan something fun or meaningful for yourself or with your new friends. 

Plan ahead

If you know that you are going to miss something important or exciting in your home country, try to arrange a way to participate or celebrate remotely. For example, you can video chat with your family or friends during a birthday party, a wedding, or a holiday. You can also send them gifts, cards, or messages to show them that you care and that you are thinking of them. 

Know that it’s okay to feel this way

Don't dismiss or minimize your feelings of FOMO, but acknowledge and accept them. It is normal and natural to miss your home and your loved ones when you are away from them. You are not weak or abnormal for feeling this way. In fact, FOMO shows that you have strong attachments and values that are important to you. 

Make peace with where you are now

Instead of dwelling on what you are missing out on, focus on what you are gaining from living abroad. You are having a unique and valuable experience that many people would love to have. You are learning new things, meeting new people, and discovering new places. You are also developing your character and self-reliance. 

What is your FOMO telling you? 

Use your FOMO as a signal or a motivation to do something about it. If you feel like you are missing out on something that you really want or need, find a way to get it or create it in your new country. For example, if you miss your hobbies or passions, join a club or an activity that matches them. If you miss your friends or family, make new friends or find a support network in your new country.

Intentionally ignore the expectations. Focus on the present, focus on self care and listen to your body. If you need to dance, dance, if you need a night on the couch with a cup of tea, make it happen.