How to deal with manipulative person?

Dealing with a manipulative person can be challenging and stressful. 

Manipulative people are those who use various tactics to influence or control others for their own benefit, often at the expense of others' feelings, needs, or rights. 

They may lie, guilt-trip, gaslight, or bully you to get what they want. They may also ignore your boundaries, avoid responsibility, and play the victim.  There are some ways to cope with manipulative people and protect yourself from their harmful behavior. Here are some tips that may help you: 

Stay calm and rational 

Don't let the manipulator trigger your emotions or make you doubt yourself. Take some deep breaths, practice grounding techniques, and remind yourself of your values and goals. 

Say no firmly and assertively

 You have the right to refuse any request or demand that is unreasonable, unfair, or harmful to you. Don't let the manipulator pressure you into doing something you don't want to do or agree with something you don't believe in. Be clear and direct about your boundaries and expectations. 

Avoid blame and confrontation 

You might have heard the saying “Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.” So don't get dragged into a fight or an argument with the manipulator, as they may use it as an opportunity to manipulate you further or make you look bad. Instead, focus on the facts and the behavior, not the person or their motives. Use "I" statements to express your feelings and needs, and avoid accusatory language like "you always" or "you never". 

Hold your ground and don't give in

 Don't let the manipulator change your mind or make you feel guilty for sticking to your decision. If they persist, repeat your position calmly and firmly, or end the conversation politely. Don't let them wear you down or make you feel sorry for them. Remember that you are not responsible for their happiness or well-being. 

Seek support and distance yourself from the manipulator. 

If possible, limit or cut off contact with the manipulator, especially if they are abusive or toxic to you. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who respect you and care about you. Seek professional help if you need it, such as counseling or therapy, to cope with the emotional impact of dealing with a manipulative person.