The Illusion of Escaping Problems

Why You Can't Run Away by Moving Abroad 

In an era of globalization and interconnectedness, the idea of starting anew in a different country often offers a tantalizing escape from the problems and challenges one faces in life. However, as enticing as it may seem, moving abroad is not a magical cure-all for our troubles. 

Running away from your problems is a common coping mechanism, but it is not a healthy or effective one. It only makes the problems worse and prevents you from finding solutions and growing as a person.

Carrying Emotional Baggage 

We carry our emotional baggage with us wherever we go. Our problems are not location-specific; they stem from within us and are deeply ingrained in our thought patterns and behaviors. Moving abroad might provide temporary relief or distraction, but unless we address the root causes of our problems, they will only resurface in our new environment.

Instead: Embrace discomfort and suffering 

This may sound counterintuitive, but it is the first step to overcoming your fear of problems. Problems are inevitable in life, and they often involve some pain and discomfort. But that doesn't mean you should avoid them or deny them. Instead, you should accept them as part of reality and learn from them. Discomfort and suffering can make you stronger, wiser, and more resilient if you face them head-on.

Cultural Differences and Adaptation

Moving to a new country means encountering a different culture, language, and way of life. While this can be a valuable and enriching experience, it also comes with its own set of challenges. Culture shock, language barriers, and the need to adapt to new customs can exacerbate existing problems and add new stresses to our lives. Ultimately, escaping from one set of problems by immersing yourself in another can create even more complexities to navigate. 

Instead: Develop a plan with short-term and long-term goals. 

One of the reasons why people run away from problems is because they feel overwhelmed by them and don't know where to start. To overcome this, you need to break down your problems into smaller and manageable steps. Set realistic and specific goals for yourself, both short-term and long-term, and track your progress. Having a plan can give you a sense of direction and motivation.

Loneliness and Disconnection

Leaving behind familiar surroundings, friends, and family can lead to feelings of loneliness and disconnection, further amplifying existing problems. Building a support network takes time and effort, and during the initial stages of relocation, adapting to a new environment can be an isolating experience. Without a strong support system, the burden of our problems may become even heavier. 

Instead: Turn to any support network you might have. 

You don't have to face your problems alone. You can seek help from your friends, family, or professionals who can offer you emotional, practical, or expert advice. Having a support network can make you feel less isolated and more confident in dealing with your problems

Self-Awareness and Personal Growth

Growth and personal development occur through self-reflection and introspection. By moving abroad solely to escape problems, we may miss valuable opportunities for self-discovery, learning, and growth. Facing and confronting challenges head-on builds resilience, problem-solving skills, and emotional intelligence. Evading problems restricts our ability to develop as individuals and learn from adversity. 

Instead: Schedule in some rest and relaxation. 

Facing your problems can be stressful and exhausting, so you need to balance it with some rest and relaxation. You can do this by taking breaks, engaging in hobbies, practicing mindfulness, or doing anything that makes you happy and relaxed. Scheduling in some rest and relaxation can help you recharge your energy, reduce your stress, and improve your mood.

Financial and Practical Considerations

 Moving abroad involves financial and practical challenges. From securing employment or finding a suitable place to live to understanding the legal requirements of your new country, these practical concerns can add stress to an already challenging situation. Ignoring these practicalities may lead to additional problems instead of providing the escape you envision.

Instead: Build momentum. 

Sometimes, the hardest part of facing a problem is getting started. To overcome this, you need to build momentum by taking small actions that move you closer to your goals. For example, if you want to stop running away from your debt problem, you can start by making a budget, cutting down on unnecessary expenses, or paying off the smallest debt first. Building momentum can help you overcome inertia and procrastination

Stick to the plan.

Define your values - set your goals - make a plan

 Finally, the most important thing is to stick to the plan that you have made for yourself. Don't give up when things get hard or when you encounter setbacks. Instead, remind yourself of why you are facing your problems and what benefits it will bring you in the long run. Stick to the plan until you have solved your problems or reached your goals. If your goals are aligned with your values you will be more motivated to reach for them and they will make you happy.
If you value highly new environment, adventures, new experiences and broadening your horizons, set your goal on moving abroad. Enroll into language courses, make a budget and find out how long you can survive without work or how you could continue in your current job remotely.

Start selling your belongings and save every penny you can. Enjoy your time with family and friends every chance you get.

Leave with a purpose, love and light heart and your stay in your new destination will be more fulfilling.