The Pitfall of Comparison
In today's hyper-connected world, it's easy to find ourselves trapped in a perpetual cycle of comparison. Whether it's scrolling through carefully curated social media feeds or observing the achievements of our friends and colleagues, the temptation to measure our own success against that of others can be overwhelming.
Alice in the Wonderland of Social Expectations
The truth is that comparing ourselves to others often leads us down to a rabbit hole full of self-doubt, insecurity, and even diminished self-worth. Everyone else seems more productive, more active, more balanced, more successful, cleaner, funnier, happier, thinner etc.
It’s a never ending cycle of
Organized homes (but not too organized so you don’t seem like a control freak)
Prepped meals (yet they have to be fresh, healthy and tasty every day)
Parties with friends (but not too much, you don’t want people to think you have addiction problems)
Happy family time (but not only that, since you are more than “just a housewife” )
No matter what you do and how well you will do it there will always be someone who has already done it faster and better, and created a funny TikTok about it.
Why is it important to break free from the destructive habit of comparing ourselves to others?
Comparing yourself to others can be a source of unhappiness and low self-esteem. It can also prevent you from pursuing your own goals and dreams. The negative impact comparisons have on our mental and emotional well-being is undeniable, as well as its potential to hinder personal growth and happiness. While creating that perfect set just like the others you might miss out on your own creativity.
Make a distinction between inspiration and copying.
Being inspired by van Gogh doesn’t mean I want to copy all his art in a coloring book. But it might inspire me to paint, to take part in painting class, to visit a museum, or watch a documentary about his work.
How to stop comparing your life to others.
Change your focus from external to internal.
Instead of looking at what others have or do, focus on what you have or do. What are your strengths, talents, passions, and values? What makes you unique and special? How can you use your gifts to contribute to the world?
Limit your consumption of social media and other sources of comparison.
Social media can create a distorted image of reality, where people only show their best moments and achievements, while hiding their struggles and challenges. This can make you feel inadequate and envious. Try to reduce the amount of time you spend on social media, or unfollow accounts that make you feel bad about yourself.
Also, avoid comparing yourself to celebrities, influencers, or other people who have different lifestyles and circumstances than you.
Pick one source of grounding inspiration.
Instead of comparing yourself to many different people, find one person who inspires you and motivates you to grow. This could be someone you know personally, or someone you admire from afar. Learn from their successes and failures, and see how they overcame their challenges. Use them as a role model, not as a rival.
Cultivate a sense of joy and gratitude.
One of the best ways to stop comparing your life to others is to appreciate what you have in your life. Practicing gratitude can help you feel more satisfied and happy with what you have, and less envious of what others have. You can start by writing down three things you are grateful for every day, or expressing your gratitude to someone who has helped you or supported you.
Celebrate your achievements and progress.
Another way to stop comparing your life to others is to acknowledge your own accomplishments and growth. No matter how big or small, every step you take towards your goals is worth celebrating. You can keep a journal of your achievements, or share them with someone who cares about you. This can help you boost your confidence and self-esteem, and remind you of how far you have come.
